I probably only ask this because I don't drink - although I absolutely do not judge those who do, I don't "get" a lot of it. My question is this - is it really that hard not to drink for nine months in order to have a healthy baby? I personally didn't really need another reason to puke (my body was taking care of that 15+ times a day on its own), but isn't the sacrifice worth it? Is it so hard that daily updates are needed? More power to you, I guess...
Note: This post was made by a woman who would poke out her own eye to have her baby back, so she's probably just really overly sensitive.
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009
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Angie, I am one who loves to socially drink and heck spent half my vacation at the end of July pretty buzzed.....please note I am not an alcoholic, but enjoying my vacation after a very tragic time in my life. I had no problem giving up alcohol and heck I didn't even drink while we were trying even if it was early in my cycle. Giving up alcohol is an easy sacrifice if you want a healthy baby. *hugs*
Thanks, Jess - like I said, I totally don't have a problem with drinking. It's just the constant e-mail and Facebook updates about missing it that are tiresome. I just don't understand those.
Angie, some days I want to delete my facebook account all together LOL
I'm thinking a week-long sabbatical might not be bad for either of us. :)
i enjoy drinking and let me say NO IT ISNT HARD. my brother's gf smoked and drank her entire pregnancy and just delivered a healthy baby. while i never wished that her child would be injured at all, it was rough knowing that i didnt take a drink for 2 years to try and have a healthy child... and instead, i've buried 3 and have 2 in the nicu, in spite of all my 'best' efforts.
so no, you arent overly sensitive. it drives me nuts when people go on and on about drinking/smoking (or actually do it) when 9m is such a short time and the gift is so great.
THANK YOU, Michele. That's exactly how it keeps making me feel - I haven't drank since we started the IVF process (and really minimally before that), don't smoke (won't even be around it), don't drink caffeine, etc. - and it still didn't go right for us. My husband's brother's girlfriend sounds much like your brother's gf - drank/smoke throughout the pregnancy. I think it just makes us more acutely aware that you should do everything in your power (and do it gladly) to try and help the miracle along.
These kinds of things make me SO angry. I have a cousin who did more than just drink and smoke while pregnant and has 2 babies she doesn't even take care of. In fact, she just spent 8 months without her babies (one just turned 1 and the other will be 3 in Nov) because she was on drugs and not taking care of them. I don't get it...I was the pregnant woman who cut out anything that was ever hinted at possibly being unhealthy in a pregnancy. But she has 2 babies, and here I am with none. I've conceived twice, (the first was a chemical pregnancy) and didn't get to keep either one.
Oh, Heather, I am so sorry - I know how hard it is for me to think about someone just drinking/smoking during pregnancy when I tried so hard. That must be so hard to face. It just makes us feel more... empty-armed, I guess.
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