Yesterday was a great day. My husband got offered a job that he had been really wanting, and will start on January 4. He had been working at a place that made him miserable, so we’re very excited. A lot of this year has been hard (in ways I can’t number), but we’re so blessed in so many ways.
I do have to admit that I am a little tired of people pointing that out to me because it’s Christmas, however. I know I’m blessed - I know exactly what has happened in my life (better than anyone else), but I’m allowed to mourn. I’m allowed to be sad and want my daughter back. I don’t really know anyone in my everyday life who has been through this, and so nobody really has the right to tell me how to feel. I just smile and say, “Thank you,” but I am a little frustrated with that forced cheer from others.
That’s not a very merry thought. Here’s a better one – I hope that everyone has a safe, warm Christmas, filled with love and warm memories. May the new decade be a good one for everyone.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
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Congrats to your husband on the job! Yes, you are allowed to mourn and you are allowed to miss your daughter. Thinking of you! xx
Thank you so much, Jill - for everything (the congrats and the support!)!
Merry Christmas!
Congrats to your husband. You definitely are entitled to feel how you feel (like you can help it) and are allowed to mourn.
You and your husband are in my thoughts.
Thank you so very much, Megan! :) That is so sweet of you - and it helps to hear that it's okay! :)
Merry Christmas to you!
I just want to echo Jill and Megan. Congrats hubby! And, yes! You are totally entitled to mourning Maddie. I feel like our friends and family dislike seeing us unhappy and just want us to be our old selves again. My feeling is... If you want to make me happy, acknowledge my daughter. Ensure me that it's okay to be sad. Anyway. Merry Christmas, friend. Thanks for all of your support!
Bree, you hit the nail on the head! I just couldn't word it any better than you did - hugs and thanks! Merry Christmas to you, and thank YOU so much for all of your wonderful support!
Congrats to your husband on his new job!
You are definitely allowed to mourn. Don't ever let anyone tell you or make you think otherwise. They cannot possibly understand.
Merry Christmas to you too.
You're such a sweetheart, Heather. :) You're right - this is a mourning that few people know (thankfully), and so it really isn't anything anyone can judge.
Merry Christmas to you and your family! :)
I am confused...did you post the same thing twice? It is probably me the user who is confused.
Many congrats to your husband! That's awesome!
I've never lost a baby but I can imagine that it's completely not helpful to hear people say things like that. No matter what wonderful things happen in your life, you of course will always miss your daughter.
(I'm behind in reading your blog but am catching up now!)
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